Let go…
“Let go of who you think you are supposed to be and be who you are.” Brene Brown
What I have come to notice over my years is that too many times people want what they believe others have. This comparison at practically every age of your life only brings greater disappointment the longer you go without that thing – a happy relationship, fulfilling career, sex every night, or a fit body.
The reality is no one is living the exact life you see. You are holding on to a perception that was created long ago and compounded every day that you search and compare yourself to where others say they are in their lives.
“Comparison is the thief of joy.” Theodore Roosevelt
I have been there. I used to believe that I needed to be married and have financial ability to do and treat others however I wanted – that belief is pretentious for me. What I came to realize and accept was that none of those things defined me. Too often we let society, social media, and liars convince us that our life should be “x” by some predetermined time or else.
Lie, lie, big-booty LIE! You do not need to marry by this age, or have kids by this time, or be in this career. You need only two things; first, to know why you want that (i.e. marriage, kids, car, house). Do not make both a significant financial and life-long decision based on “I don’t know” or “well, because”.
If you cannot explain why or get frustrated when people ask, then are you wanting something because you believe that will validate your existence?
Yes, there are possibly scientific explanations for somethings, sure. But there are other ways to get that as well if that is what you truly want.
The second thing is to let go of needing to be validated by what others say you should be, do, or want. And by others I am including family members (talking to you Mom, Dad, siblings), long-time friends, and the random that gives you a back-handed compliment about being too attractive be single.
Love Note: me on a soapbox hoping to encourage you with some direct talk.
Define how and what your LIFE looks like and LET GO of the burdens and expectations that others place on you. One of the top five regrets that people have is living the life that others wanted and not the life they wanted.
Take Care Team!
-ESL